Posts Tagged ‘rape culture’

If we’re going to protect women, let’s do it properly.

Posted in missing the point, rape, rape culture on June 2nd, 2011 by steph – 2 Comments

The topic of who’s to blame for rape is red-hot right now in the wake of comments by Paul Quinn and discussions about Slutwalk. And I’ve been thinking a lot about rape culture and victim-blaming. In light of these serious discussions about the role of clothing in rape and how it’s not a woman’s fault for being raped but she could’ve been more careful or something, the idea of ‘slutty’ clothing comes up often. And oh so helpful people have explained to me that slutty clothing makes you an easy target and let’s people know certain things about you that they might just have to act on. Short skirts are not as innocent as they appear. And I figure that if provocative clothing is really so dangerous, and so culpable in the act of rape as people keep saying, why is slutty clothing even allowed to exist? If an outfit is “designed to turn men on” (13th comment in the comments section), and it is so dangerous for women to wear such outfits and send these siren song messages of whoreishness, and these things are actual factual real risk-elevators for the act of rape, then why are we not just trying to outright ban them? I mean, we as a society obviously care about our women- after all, we’re just trying to protect them by telling them what clothing is “safe” and what is rape-lust-inducing, so we obviously care about the safety of women! But if we know these types of clothing to be so key in rape and have such power to drive the urges of rapists, then why aren’t we going that extra step further to protect women and calling for slutty clothing to be banned full-stop? I mean, it’s not like women need to wear miniskirts, right? And bad things happen when women do wear miniskirts. So why don’t we get rid of these horrible rape-facilitating items? Don’t we care about protecting women???  If something like a short skirt has potential to incite such an awful sexual crime, then it isn’t enough to say “don’t wear that to the club while you’re drunk”- after all, that isn’t the only place you could wear a short skirt. We need to stop focusing on women who dress like whores when they’re out on a Friday night- the power of the short skirt is obviously somehow inherant in the skirt itself and thus can be wielded in any location or at any time. I’m wearing a skirt right now, at work, and the hemline hits me mid-thigh. I shouldn’t be allowed to wear something to work that has the power to provoke rape! Why isn’t anyone stopping me? Do you people who say “she isn’t to blame, but is wearing that kind of outfit really wise..?” only care about those sluts in bars?

The only solution: total miniskirt ban. And probably a ban on v-neck tops just to be on the safe side. I mean, maybe we could make an allowance for a woman who wants to wear a short skirt for the purpose of titiallating her husband in her own home in the context of maritial relations- as long as the curtains are closed so no rapists can see it and be compelled to rape her. Seriously; all you people out there who are trying to help us ladies by letting us know that what we wear out on the town could be a bad choice: why don’t you care? Why are you half-assing this campaign to stop rape? Are your cries of “but I’m only trying to  keep you safe!” not actually true? If you were really trying to keep us safe you would  ban the demon miniskirts from ever touching the legs of another woman again, and we would all be safe from rape, hooray!

 

Blame the rapists

Posted in rape, rape culture, Uncategorized on May 26th, 2011 by steph – 4 Comments

Now that Slutwalk Aotearoa is drawing near, there has been a fair bit of discussion going on about it and the issues it aims to address, including coverage on Backbenches where Paul Quinn failed big-time totally misheard the question, you guys. And apparently people still haven’t gotten the memo that rapists are actually to blame for rape, not drunk women, or being out at 1am or 3am or 6am, and or short skirts. Funny that, because it seems like it would be fairly easy to comprehend. I feel like reiterating the point: rapists are to blame for rape, nothing else.

Not a rapist, as far as I know.

Mini-skirts don’t rape people; rapists do. So please stop talking about them in the context of rape.

 

Also not a rapist.

Alcohol doesn’t rape people; rapists do.

 

This deserted alleyway has never raped anyone.

Dark streets at night don’t rape people; rapists do.

If that’s still to difficult to accept, think about this: take all those things – a short skirt, alcohol, a poorly-lit street late at night- and add them together. Drunken woman+miniskirt+alleyway =/= rape. You might think that sounds like the perfect equation for rape, but you’d be wrong because there’s one crucial element missing: A RAPIST. Without a rapist in the equation – this equation or any equation- there wont be a rape. It seems like such a simple idea to grasp, and yet we’re still swimming against the tide of a victim-blaming rape culture, desperately trying to get people to understand.

 

*if at least one person isn’t thinking about Goldie Lookin Chain after this post, I have failed miserably