Please Sir, May We Have Some More Rights?

Posted in Abortion, doin' it wrong, New Zealand on March 22nd, 2011 by steph – 19 Comments

QoT hit it out of the park once again in an excellent post about abortion law reform over at The Standard (also published on her own blog here). But how great a point she made is irrelevant; her shrill, angry, demanding, enraged tone and style has completely ruined any chances of anyone wanting to side with her or give her what she’s asking for. Like a child who demands their parent buy them an ice cream, she’s blown it by not asking nicely.


Or, at least that’s what the commentariat over at The Standard have led me to believe. Yeah, they brought the tone argument with them, and liberally sprayed it about. Swearing is so crude, anger gets you nowhere, maybe if you weren’t so confrontational you might get what you want, and so on.


This is such a classic bullshit derail trotted out every time a feminist displays even a tiny bit of displeasure or anger. Don’t blow your chance honey, you’re only hurting yourself and your cause. Women getting angry? Not on my watch.


Personally, I think the anger and passion and outrage is what best motivates me, so I can’t see those things as anything other than valuable. When something is outrageous and unacceptable, I will get angry about it and refuse to soften my point because other people don’t want to hear about how something is making me angry.


And too many of the comments on QoT’s post on The Standard made me angry. Shit is wrong in the world, and in our society, and I refuse to grovel on my hands and knees, cap in hand, politely asking (but not asking for to much in case I seem demanding, or too often lest it be seen as begging) for just a few more rights please sir. No fucking way. I don’t care if my anger or my confrontational style is perceived as unacceptable: dancing around the issues isn’t going to get anything done, and ‘nice-ing” myself down to appease others is an insult to all the people before me who let their outrage feed their power and motivate their actions.


But if you do want to listen to those helpful people telling you that your anger is hurting the cause and alienating people from it, and you want to know the proper polite way to ask, Boganette has got you covered.

Anti-choice billboard win

Posted in Abortion, win on September 9th, 2010 by steph – 8 Comments

Best. Anti-choice. Ad. EVAH.

(Billboard in Toronto, via This is Hysteria).

Think of all those teddy bears that will never be hugged!!11!!1!!

Hoovering is my preferred form of contraception

Posted in Abortion, down with the kids, hoovering, Shortland Street on August 25th, 2010 by steph – Comments Off on Hoovering is my preferred form of contraception

Funny how, when reading this, I can picture the writers of Shortland Street latching onto this thinking that they were on the cutting edge of teen – I’m sorry, I mean youth– slang, and dropping it casually into an episode. Although they did just have their abortion plot line, so wont be due another one for a fews years yet. I guess they will just have to stick to having people call each other bints and nongs for now.

Julie on pro-choice abortion law

Posted in Abortion, New Zealand, Pro-choice on August 14th, 2010 by steph – 2 Comments

I’m sure by now most of you have read the brilliant post/presentation by Julie on why abortion needs to be legal (or a re-post, such as this one over at Ideologically Impure, spreading the awesomeness to everyone with eyes). Julie’s presentation is amazing, and is a beautifully structured argument for why abortion needs to be legal, and why abortion law needs to be pro-choice. The world isn’t perfect, and we do not have full control over our own fertility. And, as QoT states, people will have sex. They will. And because we don’t have full control over out fertility, pregnancies will happen. And some will be unwanted. And people will have abortions to end them.

As Julie says,

We don’t yet live in a world where we have full control of our fertility.

Unwanted pregnancies will happen.

So we’re faced with how we deal with those unwanted pregnancies – as individuals and as a society.

I believe that abortion is necessary. I believe that holding a pro-choice position, allowing the woman concerned to choose whether or not to continue her pregnancy, is the ethical, indeed the moral, approach.

Who else can make that decision?

Who else has a better understanding of her circumstances?

Who else has to live with the consequences?

And who else should control her body?

Exactly. Who else should get to make the decision for an individual woman? Nobody. Women should be able to make that decision for themselves.

Julie also explains why the current law is not pro-choice, and is pretty anti-women.

Overall, I can’t praise this presentation enough!