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Asking for it

Posted in Uncategorized on July 12th, 2010 by steph – 5 Comments

Scotland’s first TV advert aimed at tackling prejudice against rape victims is being broadcast this week.

In the ad, after a man in a bar comments on a woman’s skirt, saying she’s asking for it, a flashback shows the woman asking a shop assistant to help her decide which skirt to buy. She tells the assistant: “I’m going out tonight and I want to get raped. I need a skirt that’ll encourage a guy to have sex with me against my will.”

While I don’t think it is especially hard-hitting, I do like it a lot because the ‘short skirt, she’s asking for it’ point of view is still disturbingly prevalent (Rape Crisis Scotland’s statistics show 17% of men believe the woman is at least partially responsible if dressed ‘provocatively’) and is also utterly ridiculous. And this ad does make the ‘she was asking for it’ statement look as stupid as it really is. Additionally, as a wearer of short skirts on a near-daily basis, I hate the idea that anyone, even one single person out there in the world could take that to mean I’m asking for anything, so targeting this woefully ignorant point of view is always welcome in my book.

Oh, well, if she deserved it, then that’s ok…

Posted in Uncategorized on July 12th, 2010 by steph – Comments Off on Oh, well, if she deserved it, then that’s ok…

Recordings of Mel Gibson verbally and physically abusing his girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva have been receiving a lot of attention lately. As well as disgusting racist and sexist comments, and threats to her life, he also says (after Grigorieva asks “”What kind of a man is that who would hit a woman when she is holding a child in her hands, hitting her twice in the face?”) “You know what? You fucking deserved it”. Ah, that’s right, the ‘you deserved it’ defense to justify physically abusing your partner. I had forgotten that if you deem someone deserves it, you get to do whatever you want to them; legal, illegal, with their consent or not. I get this weird feeling I have heard people use this defense before when justifying some other types of things they do to women who ‘deserved it’….

Danger!

Posted in Uncategorized on July 12th, 2010 by steph – 2 Comments

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Consent

Posted in Uncategorized on July 9th, 2010 by steph – 1 Comment

While perusing the various articles about Andy Haden and his comments about rape, I came across a statement from a commentor on one of them I found very interesting

“…I am not saying that the mens behaivour is acceptable either, they definetly need a hard look at themselves also. But lets face it, so many NZ girls are pretty trashy. They say “Yes yes yes” all night, say no once and call it rape.”

Specifically, what I found interesting was the “they say ‘yes yes yes’ all night, say no once, and call it rape” part. The issue of consent seems to be coming up in a lot of things I have read lately, specifically that the way we view consent and the way we should aren’t always the same. The way it should work is that when someone says yes, they are consenting to a certain thing; and, should things happen after that thing they don’t like, they should be able to withdraw their consent. Consent should be able to be withdrawn whenever the individual wants. What I’m saying is, if two people start getting busy, they can kiss, touch, tkae off items of clothing, do whatever they like, but if one of them decides after all of that ‘Hey, I don’t actually want to go all the way and actually have sex’, then that’s that. Consent, or a ‘yes’, is given to individual things, not to everything. So I think that saying yes,yes,yes, NO. is actually perfectly acceptable. Except, I suppose, if you are a selfish, insensitive, and disrespectful person who thinks they should always get to do everything they want. I’m not saying you can’t feel a little disappointed when your fooling around doesn’t turn into some steamy bedspring-squeaking sex, but it isn’t about disappointment or satisfaction, it’s about respecting another person enough to accept that they can say no whenever they want, and responding accordingly.

Ashley Judd and slut-shaming

Posted in Uncategorized on July 9th, 2010 by steph – Comments Off on Ashley Judd and slut-shaming

What women do with their bodies is always the first thing to be attacked when you don’t agree with their point of view.

A topless photo of Ashley Judd emblazoned on a poster that mocks the actress’ outspoken opposition to mountaintop removal mining was on display at a coal industry-sponsored golf tournament in Kentucky.

“Ashley Judd makes a living removing her top, why can’t coal miners?” the poster reads in bold, black letters.

It was hanging at a golf tournament at StoneCrest Golf Course in Prestonsburg.

Judd is covering her breasts with her hands in the photo, which appears to be from a 2006 issue of Marie Claire magazine.

It’s such a cliché, really; a woman says something that you don’t agree with or don’t like, so the first thing you target isn’t her point but what she has chosen to do with her body; essnetially saying ‘look at this slut, slutting around for everyone to see’ and trying to shame her and devalue her, which in turn devalues her opinion and also aims to silence her through embarrassment.  Boring, unoriginal slut-shaming tactics that don’t even target her argument seem quite pathetic to me, and I’m glad to hear she intends to continue being vocal about the cause.

A note: I don’t really like the quote from her calling mountaintop removal mining as being the “rape of Appalachia”. I think there are ways express how destructive something can be without comparing it to rape.

Art, abuse, and ownership

Posted in Uncategorized on July 8th, 2010 by steph – Comments Off on Art, abuse, and ownership

The daughters of artist Larry Rivers are asking for films and videos of themselves as teenagers, naked or topless, being interviewed by their father about their developing breasts, to be removed from the archives of his work and returned to them.

Check out Shakesville for some good discussion.

Pinkwashing

Posted in Uncategorized on July 8th, 2010 by steph – Comments Off on Pinkwashing

Feministing.com has some more discussion of pink products for women. I still think that my all-time favourite is the pink Ouija board for girls.

Although I have to say, the Miss Army Utility Knife is great (the website tells me it is now only available in blue, which really undermines my point here, huh?). As well as the normal Swiss Army Knife tools, it also has a perfume bottle, apparently. I could totally get behind some sort of utility knife for women if it had the normal tools, and maybe a tampon and a condom, because those are things would be great to have at hand when you find yourself in need. Also, I think I would like it more if it wasn’t called the Miss Army knife…. Yeah. At least there is a choice of colour, so pink isn’t the default.

I wish I could rotate 3-D objects in my mind like men can

Posted in Uncategorized on July 7th, 2010 by steph – Comments Off on I wish I could rotate 3-D objects in my mind like men can

Evolutionary psychology bingo

2+2=…um…

Posted in Uncategorized on July 7th, 2010 by steph – 1 Comment

But women can’t do maths; how will we manage to figure this out??

Feminist Hulk

Posted in Uncategorized on July 7th, 2010 by steph – 1 Comment

Feminist Hulk is almost enough motivation for me to join twitter.

“HULK NOT DOWN WITH COMPLACENCY IN THE FACE OF HEGEMONY. IF THAT’S ‘JUST THE WAY IT IS,’ LET’S FUCK IT UP!”